I mostly see men doing this. Di ako bias sa blog post na to at di ko pa to naeexperience, kaya kung iisipin nyong bitter ako at masyado akong feminist, eh puta kayo. Manahimik nalang kayo’t basahin nyo nalang rant ko.
I have a friend who’s experienced this way back 2010 and she’s one of my closest friends. We were high school seniors and at that time, she and her boyfriend had already been together for more than a year. At one point in their relationship, though I clearly and honestly don’t know what happened, they broke up. The guy (let’s refer to him as O) was the one who broke up with her (from what I can recall. “O” said he needed space to find himself, he needed time to think. But lo and behold! The douche apparently had feelings for someone else. This girl was in another class, although all of us were from the same batch.
Then we found out na sila na pala.
And after maybe three (?) years, they broke up just recently. Fuck both of them.
And tonight I have come across another one.
Roman and I have this friend, although not very close, and he’s experienced the same thing. Maybe not really the exact situation but still, the guy left our friend for someone else.
Let me tell you, that someone else is nothing but pure shit.
So I read our friend’s blog, and saw the conversation. His ex still loves him, and his ex misses him.
To our friend, please magpakatatag ka. Di mo kailangan ng ganyang tao sa buhay mo and I am here to say na you’re so much better off without someone who leaves you and is now apparently making you a back-up plan. No, you should go for someone who would make you their priority—not their choice. I know hindi tayo close but nakakausap naman kita, and I am tired of seeing people like him na mang-si-sweet talk lang at nagpapa-amo sayo para kung magiging fail sila ng current nila eh babalik sya sayo. Leave him kasi putangina sya.
And to all the other guys out there pati narin sa mga babae, wag na wag nyong magawa na manloko ng tao. Yung iba habit na yan, so please break that habit. You are just wasting your time and the person’s time and full-fledged love. You are wasting the genuine feelings. Yung mga lolokohin nyo, malay mo sila na yung para sa inyo tapos gagaguhin nyo lang?
People like this deserve a very special place in hell.